2. Can I Financially Support The Family? 

This is the big one for most men. Sometimes the birth of a child means that you shift from two salaries and two people to one salary and three people. We can all do the mathematics for that one!

Occasionally it is the woman who is the main breadwinner and when she falls pregnant, the pressure for the man to get a better job can be quite intense (from both within yourself and from the people surrounding you).

Many men will feel the need to shoulder all of the future responsibility for family income and insist that their partner stops work altogether. This usually derives from the “Macho” element of our society’s teachings (and doesn’t only happen when a pregnancy is due). This deeply ingrained thought process can sometimes be a method to ensure that the man feels that he is making a full contribution to the family, after all, he cannot carry a baby in his stomach for nine months, so he must have an input with influence in one way. Another reason can simply be that he is mimicking his father’s attitude to family.

This last option is often chosen and usually works quite well. However, when you come to make your decisions, try to take into account what both you and your partner want for the future and try to be as practical as possible without basing your choices on “what you should do”.

1. Will I be a good father?

2. Can I Financially Support The Family?

3. Can I Handle Her Emotional Changes?

4. Am I The Real Father?

5. What If I Die Too Young?

6. Will My Wife & Baby Survive?

7. Will She Love The Baby More Than Me?

8. How Can I Help During The Pregnancy If I don’t understand “Women’s” Problems?

9. Will I Do A Good Job At The Birth?

10. But I Don’t Even Like Children, So How Can I Cope With This?

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