This problem can be resolved by taking a full and active role in the pregnancy and after the birth in assisting in the care of your baby. Each parent, in their own individual way, provides a vital element in the baby’s understanding; security, warmth, food, comfort, sense of self and sense of the surrounding world. Who provides what and to which degree depends on the individuals involved.

8. How Can I Help During The Pregnancy If I don’t understand “Women’s” Problems? 

Well quite clearly this is the whole purpose of this web site! The more that you can comprehend about what is going on inside your partner, then the more sympathetic you will be to her condition. We are trying to ‘demystify’ the whole subject so that men do not need to feel that they are outside of the whole process of pregnancy and childbirth. The more that you know about the subject the more you can assist her in the various decisions that need to be made.

Of course, until you actually see your partner with her feet in the stirrups, then you will never really know how you feel about it all.

9. Will I Do A Good Job At The Birth? 

Like it or not, men are generally pretty squeamish. A fear that many have before the birth is that they will not be able to handle all of the blood and bodily fluids that will be around. They fear that they may faint or throw-up. In reality this almost never happens. True! You may not like the blood, but you will probably be too concerned with your partner and child to let it have much of an effect on you.

10. But I Don’t Even Like Children, So How Can I Cope With This? 

This is not a stupid question. What many first time fathers know about children is restricted to the lives of young boys, and that’s only because they were one themselves. Many men fear the unknown elements of new children, especially if it is going to be a young girl (for which there is minimal experience). 

The best way to look at this is probably to remember that for the first child, both you and your partner are learning how this all works, so do as much as possible together or share the load and laugh about it over dinner whilst you swap hints and tips. You may not like children in general, but you will certainly love yours.

1. Will I be a good father?

2. Can I Financially Support The Family?

3. Can I Handle Her Emotional Changes?

4. Am I The Real Father?

5. What If I Die Too Young?

6. Will My Wife & Baby Survive?

7. Will She Love The Baby More Than Me? 

8. How Can I Help During The Pregnancy If I don’t understand “Women’s” Problems? 

9. Will I Do A Good Job At The Birth?

10. But I Don’t Even Like Children, So How Can I Cope With This?

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